I know this probably makes me a cad, but I’m simply
following W. C. Fields' advice never to give a sucker an even break. I’m
going to pick a few nits here. I don’t
think they’re nits; you may. But
stick with me and maybe you won't.
After all these years of circling the Vatican wagons and
covering-up the many cases of sexual abuse of children by clerics, at long last
– and seriously, folks, it’s been decades! – the official Roman Catholic church
is actually taking steps to disassociate themselves from these sickos. Instead of shuffling child abusers from parish to parish, they're actually tossing one out of the priesthood.
Trouble is, in doing so, they can’t resist an opportunity to hide behind words. There’s a perfectly good word in
English for removing a priest from his priestliness. It’s called “defrocking,” and that's the word Guardian reporter Lizzie Davis uses in reporting the story. Church sources, however, are going with “laicization.” What do you suppose that’s
all about? Is it so that it doesn’t
sound so bad? Defrocking sounds pretty
harsh. But shouldn’t it be?
Laicization, first of all, is a foreign word in
English. Most English speakers haven’t a
clue what it means. Those who do, think
of the French word, laïcité. There is an English equivalent in “laicism”
but it isn’t in common use. It’s the
French way of speaking of the separation of church and state. Historically, it was a way of getting the
church out of the public sphere. (Like
not colluding with retrograde politicians to restrict civil rights, for
example, and yes, the U.S. might take note.)
A
“lay” person is a person who is not a cleric.
The collective noun is “laity” and it is understood to be the opposite
of “clergy.” And that’s the sense in
which the word “laicization” is being used in this defrocking case. A priest is returning to the state of being
a lay person, which he was before he was ordained. All very innocent and gentle sounding. And a hell of a clever way to water down an awkward reality.
The
word came up in the news today in connection with Józef Wesołowski, the
Vatican’s ambassador to the Dominican Republic and latest of their many
boy-diddlers. At least
teenager-diddlers. Don’t know the age of
Eminence Józef’s erotic fantasies actually realized.
While the Guardian article used the good Anglo-Saxon defrocking instead of the French laicization, it twisted words in another direction, in my view, when they referred to Wesołowski’s activities as sex abuse. Child abuse suggests intimidating a kid in the
confessional, using parental devotion to the church to persuade them to allow
their kid to go camping with Father John and sleep in the same tent and then
telling the kid his parents will go to hell if he speaks of what goes on in the
tent. What Father Józef is guilty of is paying a
child prostitute for services. Speak of child abuse and the focus is on the sick puppy individual within the institution. Speak of prostitution and the focus is on the institution and a means of channeling sexual satisfaction.
The
distinction is important. In the first
instance, the harm done to the kid’s psyche can cause life-long trauma. In the second, the kid gets lunch and maybe
feeds his family. Secondly, it frames
two issues that shout to the rooftops what is wrong with Roman Catholicism. It is erotophobic. It takes something beautiful – sex – and
makes it dirty. And the “doctrine” (talk
about abusing words) of celibacy is just another phase of a seriously disturbed
sexuality the church pushes on its adherents.
If the priest were free to enjoy his fleshly appetites as he enjoys the
good cigar, glass of wine, or plate of oysters, with another adult human being
choosing to do the same, there would be no problem at all. It wouldn’t affect his devotion to Jesus,
Mary and Mother Church one iota. It
wouldn’t make him less compassionate, less generous, less kind. It would make him a happy man, a living
illustration of how one can be catholic and embrace life. Instead, by making sex dirty, something for
the confessional, it drives people like Father Józef to secret hidden illicit pleasures.
The
second issue this story highlights is the vulgar display of silks and satins
and jewels still worn by the clergy in Józef Wesołowski’s position. In a country like the Dominican Republic,
where poverty is rife and many young people sell their bodies for basic needs,
the vulgarity of the display is all the more evident and all the more loathsome. For clergy to take advantage of kids living
in poverty for their own sexual satisfaction reveals a great deal about the
personal morality of the man. And his
church, which has for centuries accepted the right of “princes” of the church to live like princes among paupers. If the church put its money where the current
pope’s mouth now fortunately seems to be, it would stop this display of wealth
immediately and turn the efforts of the church toward caring for the poor, like
this guy the church is supposedly a follower of advocated.
Józef
Wesołowski is only one priest among dozens who likes sex and finds satisfaction
in young bodies. He’s not a
monster. In my view, johns of teenage prostitutes are hardly heroic figures, but not living up to the highest of standards is not the same as acting out a moral depravity. The focus really ought to be not on him but on the seriously
hypocritical and dysfunctional institution he personifies.
The whole business makes you want to keep the curia after school and wave your finger at them. Get your priorities straight for once, I want to tell them. And cut the crap with “laicization”.
Laicization, the way you use it, simply means turning somebody into
somebody like me – a lay person. Józef
Wesołowski isn’t being “sentenced” to “laicization.” Being a lay person isn't a criminal punishment. He’s
being defrocked.
Like
the whole damn bunch of you ought to be.
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